Dawn Donohoo

While talking with one of my girlfriends the other night, she told me about this guy who was in his mid forty’s, who after asking her is she was married, and when the answer was no, he asked “Do you have children?” when the answer was no to that, he had the audacity to tell her she should really consider getting pregnant soon and couldn’t understand why she wasn’t worried about not ever having children.  He didn’t think it mattered so much that she was single and not married, but man she better worry about her biological clock! Luckily she could of really cared less about this encounter. I on the other hand don’t understand why people say such ridiculous things to people who are single, especially women who are single.  Do they really think that these kinds of questions are necessary? Come on, like women don’t ever give their biological clock a thought. Or what if it is more important to a woman to find someone who is truely made for her, rather than a man who will donate sperm and parent with her?

Listed below was a poll done on 19 Things You Should Never Say To a Single Person, these are comments that really bother singles, so pay attention!

1. It happens when you’re not looking.
“This is just bull. Some people find people when they’re looking; some don’t. You’re not doing anything wrong by going out and meeting people.” —Beth

2. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
“I dated a guy whose last name was Fish. People just had a BLAST with that one.” —Kelly

3. So, why are you single?
“I generally dislike this question. I mean honestly, if I knew why, I don’t think I would be single right now, now would I?!” —Erica

4. You’re too picky.
“This may be true, but it feels like I’m getting criticized for my taste, vision, and close-mindedness — when I’m already down.” —Sarah

5. You’ll find the right person for you.
—Kelly

6. He’s out there.
—Kelly

7. It was just bad timing.
“Like it’s so easy to dismiss a guy on such an emotionless and objective reason.” —Taryn

8. Just have fun with it!
“Um, don’t tell me how to date in my thirties when you got married at 24.” —Maya

9. Have you tried online dating?
“Duh!” —Elisa

10. He just wasn’t the right guy for you.
“I know! That’s what I’m complaining about!” —Elisa

11. Well, when my boyfriend and I first got together…
“Wait, I still want to talk about me.” —Elisa

12. When the time is right, you will meet someone.
—Betsy

13. Wow, I wish I were single and in your shoes!
“Really?! I’m pretty sure you CAN be single if you actually want to be. That there is an attainable dream, so if you aren’t messing with me right now out of pity (which I suspect you are), please go for it!” —Kim

14. Your turn next [at weddings].
—Natlondon, via Twitter

15. It will happen when you least expect it.
—dlegas05, via Twitter

16. Some guy is going to come along and ruin your career/life plans.
“I am 32 and no one has ruined the last 10 years of plans.” —frolicblog, via Twitter

17. But you’re so pretty! Why don’t you have a boyfriend?
“There’s just no graceful way to answer that.” —earnesteats, via Twitter

18. It just wasn’t meant to be.
“Any of these platitudes are exponentially more annoying when coming from the mouths of smug marrieds.” —Reberoodle, via Twitter

19. Sure, my guy rescues kids from abusive homes, donated my sister a kidney, and picks up fresh flowers for me daily on his way home from work, but will he QUIT IT with the sports on TV already?
“Single people just hate to be complained to about petty relationship stuff. If you do this, I’m not going to want to hang out with you. (In fact, maybe I’ll call your boyfriend and ask him if he wants to grab a beer and watch the Yankees game?)” —Kim

Here it is guys, while we know that you are mostly trying to comfort your single friends. It is actually very annoying when you do. Most of us are actually happy to be where we are at. We are not truely depressed over not being married and such. Trust me, marriage is not the only dream a woman or man have! Try to just understand that their life is a little different from yours and respect them for it.

Dating Coach, Dawn Donohoo

Tags: dating, divorced, I love you, single