Dawn Donohoo

So once the girl respects herself, how does she get her man to truly respect her for her values, to validate her as an independent person?

Here is a question from yesterday’s post. I am sitting here and trying to come up with a clever answer.  I guess I think that once a girl knows herself and her worth it is not too hard to get her man to truly respect her for her values and to validate her as an independent person.

I am a big believer that you attract what you put off. For instance, when I went through the worst relationship of my life, I did not take the time to heal or to even go into thought about the pain that the relationship caused. I just wanted to forget that it really ever happened. I started dating again and was obviously a wounded girl. I saw myself as damaged goods.  The kind of men that I attracted at that time in my life were men who had little value for me as a person.  I went around with so much shame, I actually didn’t even think I was good enough for a good man. I was so scared to tell any guy I was dating about my past, I would literally go around sweating, fearful that they might want to know more about me and, how would I ever tell them. I actually was more comfortable with a man who wanted to play games with me and use me rather than a man who really wanted to know me or actually have any true feelings for me. Basically, if he really liked me then there was no chance for him. I didn’t realize that this was what I was doing at the time but it was. I had determined my worth at this time in my life and I not only attracted what I put off, but I push away anyone who thought I was any different, even if they thought my worth was higher than what I had determined. My point stands that “You as a independent person, makes the determination of your worth! No one else can do it for you.”

I think that the key to getting a man who respects your values and validates you as an individual, is getting there as a person yourself. If you respect yourself and truly love yourself as an individual you would not put up with a man who does not feel the same. It all boils down to you, and what you have determined your worth to be.

For instance, If you don’t feel like it is time for you to get sexually active and the guy you are dating does not respect this decision, then out of true worth for yourself you would have to tell this guy that if  he cannot  respect your  boundaries then this relationship will not be going forward.

To get respect is simple, the answer is to respect yourself.

Dating Coach, Dawn Donohoo

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